Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself.
If you think you’re worthwhile, you’re more likely to make friends, get good jobs and have more opportunities, which in turn means that you feel even better about yourself and the upwards spiral continues.
Unfortunately, self-esteem can be a negative spiral too. Having a lack of self-worth leads to fewer opportunities and further depletions of self-worth. It’s an important cycle to break as low self-esteem has wide-reaching negative effects on your mood, behaviour, beliefs and experiences.
Low self-esteem symptoms:
- Very self-critical
- Easily hurt by feedback from others
- Seek validation from others
- Unrealistically low opinion of your abilities, appearance and personality
- Difficulty making decisions
- Constant need to please others, often at the expense of yourself
- Feel guilty… sometimes for things that aren’t even your fault!
- Pessimistic about everything: life, future, and above all, oneself
- Lack of enjoyment in life
- Tolerate abusive relationships
- Reluctant to state own opinions or assert boundaries
How can Empower Therapies help?
I have seen a lot of clients do very well for low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is reinforced by a negative voice inside your head and an internal scanner that only notices evidence of your failures, rather than evidence of your successes. Helping people to change what they give attention to and to start rewiring their thinking patterns into positive ones is a first step to resolving low self-esteem. For some people, they also need to address an experience in their past that has sapped their confidence, or clear some old beliefs they took on from critical parents or from a bad relationship. To find out more, click The Switch.
Low self-esteem is often quite unrelated to actual success in people’s lives – I have seen several clients who were Head Girl or Boy at their school, Dux, Captain of the First XV et cetera, and yet they still think they’re not good enough. Self-esteem has far more to do with the voice in your head than with any kind of external measures of success.
How to enrol
I have not renewed my Lightning Process license at the end of July 2017 and will not be running any further Lightning Process courses. Click on The Switch page of my website to find out more about my new programme.
You are also welcome to contact me to further discuss how Empower Therapies can help you.
Did You Know?
- Recovered alcoholics indicate that low self esteem is the most significant problem in their lives.
Alcoholism: A False Stigma: Low Self-Esteem the True Disease (Candito, 1996).
- 75% of girls with low self-esteem reported engaging in negative activities such as disordered eating, cutting, bullying, smoking, or drinking, compared to 25% of girls with high self-esteem.
(Real Girls, Real Pressure: A National Report, June 2008)
- Males score higher on standard measures of global self-esteem than females, but the difference is small.
(Kling, Psychological Bulletin (1999).